Him Treating You Poorly Is Just A Sign He Doesn’t Love Himself

I’m certain he seemed amazing when you initially crossed paths. He followed all the rules. He reached out through calls and texts frequently.

He lavished you with attention. He was kind and affectionate. He put in the effort.

Just as you began to believe you were in a fairy tale love story, he shattered that illusion.

His conduct shifted so dramatically. Initially, being apart from you or without communication was unbearable for him. Then, suddenly, he ignored you entirely.

Believe me when I say that his actions are not a reflection of you. It’s not that his feelings for you have waned; he acts this way because he lacks self-worth.

A secure man, one who values himself, acts in a different manner. Even if he finds a woman less appealing, he will communicate this. If he’s not prepared for a relationship, he will be upfront about it.

He won’t keep her in limbo and treat her like she is the center of his existence just to later discard her like she meant nothing.

This is not the way a genuine man acts. This is how the weak and deceitful manipulate.

This is why he intentionally began your relationship with overwhelming affection. He was aware that you would cling to that perfect start when he later mistreated you.

He realized those ideal moments would be sufficient for you to continue forgiving his wrongdoings, hoping he would revert to that earlier self. But he never will.

Men like him don’t transform; they only decline.

Unfortunately, this truth is difficult to recognize immediately. It’s hard to fathom that someone who was once so caring now seems so detached and cruel.

Despite everything, you maintain hope for his better nature. You replay the joyful memories, cherishing them fiercely.

You start to blame yourself because he conditioned you to do so. He was an expert at playing the victim’s part flawlessly.

You genuinely began to accept that what he stated was the reality. It’s understandable because he exerted every effort to diminish your self-esteem. He needed you to feel weak emotionally as it allowed him to control your life.

Don’t buy into his claims of love for you. He cannot genuinely love you if he doesn’t love himself.

If he treats you unjustly, don’t take his love claims at face value. Trust your tears. Trust your panic attacks. Trust your sense of despair that tells you he is not the right one for you.

Don’t believe his words because they lose significance when his actions betray you.

The only individual who can truly love you is someone who already cherishes himself.

He will freely share his affection with you. He will treat you with respect, regardless of the situation. Certainly, there will be disagreements, but he will never cause you to suffer unnecessarily.

A man who values himself will uplift you. He won’t think of belittling you or making you feel inadequate since he sees your value.

A man like this will focus on making efforts, not excuses. He will reciprocate love, ensuring you never feel abandoned. A man who loves himself knows how to genuinely care for you, and that is the undeniable truth.

Therefore, wait for this man…seek him out… discover your own worth. Don’t permit anyone to disregard you. Do not accept anyone who mistreats you. That is not love… it is suffering.