Man Refuses To Sacrifice One Night A Week To Help His Wife With A Newborn
Ladies, let’s get real. Who’s handling more baby duties, you or your partner? I thought so.
This new journey is incredible and joyful but also packed with sleepless nights and challenges. It’s a breeze when you have a committed partner who isn’t afraid of soiled diapers and a baby’s cries.
Sadly, we’re still in a world where some people believe a man’s role ends at conception. When they realize parenting is a full-time gig, they want out.
Women, however, are superheroes who bear a lot. But this mom hit her limit.
A weary mom vents on Reddit
A woman shared her story on Reddit, seeking validation for her expectations. She recently welcomed a baby girl and was floored by her husband’s attitude.
She described his pre-baby routine:
“Before pregnancy, he’d play soccer and drink with buddies twice a week, plus go for long runs on Sundays or days off. Some weeks, we’d barely cross paths except for a few minutes in bed.”
Naturally, she wanted him to be more present with her and their newborn. She wrote:
“Since getting pregnant, I asked him to cut back soccer/drinking to once a week and plan runs closer to home. He agreed after much arguing.”
One day, he left two hours after work for a BBQ with friends. When he didn’t return until 11 p.m., she texted him to sleep downstairs. A simple request turned into a big argument. That’s when the complaining began.
“My husband says I’m taking away his freedom”
Her husband found her expectations unreasonable. She explained:
“Apparently, informing him when he’ll be home is taking away his freedom. He needs to ‘feel the atmosphere’ before deciding when to return. I just want to plan my night, but he finds that unfair.”
But that wasn’t all. He grumbled about how tough it is to give up one night a week. With a one-week-old baby, he’s already worn out. She added:
“He also claimed that caring for me during pregnancy (basically skipping one soccer night and drinking session) pushed him to near burnout. During pregnancy, he even threatened to leave if he couldn’t do whatever he wanted after the baby’s birth.”
Imagine that! The dad behaves more like a child than their actual baby! Newsflash, having kids means sacrificing free time.
Commenters agreed he was being selfish. One person said:
“He’s acting this way with a 3-week-old? Priority number one should be his home and family right now, no excuses.”
I totally agree! Living like a single parent already, divorce wouldn’t change much.
However, not everyone pinned all the blame on the dad. Some argued he deserved breaks since he’s working. Someone commented:
“In my opinion, you’re both in the wrong. He works a lot and needs breaks. But you also deserve support and time for yourself. Both of you need to step up and give each other grace to get your needs met.”
Do you agree? Because work isn’t an excuse to neglect family duties, especially during crucial times. Women are often tired too, but no one asks if they need rest.
Moms give everything and sacrifice so much during and after pregnancy. And dads can’t skip one night out? That’s disrespectful!
Some dads go the extra mile, but other men need reminders to care for their kids too. Parenthood is a team effort, and teamwork makes the dream work.
So next time you plan for kids, have a candid talk with your partner about expectations. You might be surprised by what’s considered normal.
