If Your Day With A Partner Looks Like This, Your Relationship Is On Rocky Ground

Have you ever woken up next to your partner and felt like they were worlds away? You’ve been together for some time, but something essential is missing.

This is a situation everyone dreads, but unfortunately, many people find themselves all too familiar with it.

Relationships that were once filled with intense passion and deep love can sometimes evolve into something completely different. I too once felt like I was living with a stranger, not the man I had spent years with and shared everything.

Psychotherapist and relationship expert, Deborah Krevalin (@debkrevalincounseling) discussed this topic on her TikTok and shed light on how these relationships typically look. If this resonates with you, it might be time for a serious conversation about the future with your partner.

“A look into the life of an unhappy couple”

When you’re truly in love and happy with your partner, every day feels fresh and exciting, still filled with the butterflies you felt when you first met. You look forward to seeing them in the morning and hearing about their day when they come home.

You genuinely enjoy their company and never seem to get enough of them. Every day brings a new adventure.

However, things change when people are unhappy together. The spark dies, and they stop caring for each other. Deborah described a typical day for such couples:

“They wake up, maybe say ‘good morning’ at most. They go about their own routines, get ready for the day, and perhaps the partner who leaves first says, ‘See you later, I’m off’, maybe ‘have a good day.’”

Some might not find this problematic, but issues often hide in small details like neglecting to greet or acknowledge each other.

My ex used to always show affection in the morning, kiss me, and cuddle before leaving for work. Over time, he began acting exactly as she described.

From lovers to roommates

It’s not merely about forgetting you’re not living alone; it’s also about lack of communication and quality time spent together.

The psychotherapist also noted:

“There’s no contact during the day, no ‘What are we doing for dinner?’, nothing like that. You don’t know when your partner is coming home, you both just arrive when you arrive.”

When relationships reach this stage, something is clearly wrong. Couples tend to drift apart daily, and if they don’t address it, they either break up or become mere roommates, sharing the same space.

Leaving isn’t always the best solution, though it might seem the easiest. If you’re ready to fight for your love, an honest conversation and some effort can fix almost anything.

Deborah also mentioned that unhappy couples often don’t spend time together, even if they live under the same roof. She said:

“Usually, in the evening, you’re reading or watching TV, probably not in the same room, and then you go to bed and repeat the next day.”

This is sadly a reality for many couples today. While some recognize this pattern and want to fix it, others simply accept it to avoid conflict.

Of course, this can’t lead to anything good, and it’s only a matter of time before things boil over, as you can only live in that environment for so long before losing your peace of mind. One woman shared her experience:

“Been there, he didn’t want to go for a walk, a hike, out to eat, play pool, go watch a sunset. ANYTHING. I was bored, sad, and miserable.”

Interestingly, not everyone agrees this way of life is miserable. Some say they live like that and see nothing wrong with it, while others would rather be alone than in such a relationship.

I don’t think this is a healthy way to live with someone, but everyone has different preferences. Maybe some people aren’t keen on affection or need more alone time because they’re introverted, so this lifestyle suits them. Who knows!

Either way, having an open discussion about your relationship and how you both want it to proceed is always a good idea. This way, you can avoid uncomfortable moments and prevent the other person from feeling neglected.

Every problem can be solved, so don’t give up right away! Your relationship can flourish again if you’re willing to put in the effort!