Screw You For Making Her Think She’s the Unlovable One

Everyone has their moments of being difficult to love. We experience highs and lows, and that’s completely acceptable. What’s unacceptable is making her feel like she is the one incapable of being loved.

It’s wrong to let her navigate through life believing she is unworthy of affection just for being herself.

Because you didn’t grasp how to truly love her, you shifted the blame onto her. You found it hard to match her pace, so you played the victim, placing her in the role of the one with issues.

The truth is, she is abundantly lovable—you just weren’t the right fit.

You claim she had a bad attitude. But that wasn’t the case. She simply refused to allow you to mute her opinions.

She wasn’t going to remain silenced just because it made you comfortable. If you were in the wrong, it’s essential for you to recognize that.

You suggest she blew things out of proportion. She did not. She stood up for herself when you acted unfairly.

Refusing to be part of your games and not letting you manipulate her was her way of asserting herself. It’s perfectly fine for you to enjoy time with your friends; however, it’s not right to disregard her calls or messages for long stretches.

You mention she was always busy. In reality, she wasn’t. She was focused on her aspirations. She consistently made time for you.

She picked up your calls, replied to your texts promptly whenever you reached out, and was always available to listen to your issues. It just so happened that she devoted considerable effort to her profession, which bothered you.

You needed her to rely on you so you could orchestrate her existence. That’s why you felt the urge to make her feel guilty for excelling at what she loved.

You claim she wasn’t attentive enough. In truth, she was. She organized your outings.

She chose the movies for you both to watch and was the one who consistently urged you to leave the house. She knew every detail about your preferences.

She connected with your friends and had solutions for all your problems. Even if she did not have a solution, she was always there to listen and support you.

You argue that she was difficult to love. Perhaps only to you.

This was because you didn’t invest enough into the relationship. She appeared unlovable because you couldn’t manage her complexity.

However, she was not devoid of love. In fact, she was incredibly easy to love. She sought your attention and empathy.

What she needed was for you to put in more effort and to embrace her entirely as she is.You didn’t have to alter her. She was perfectly fine being herself.

You wished to mold her to fit your narrative. But that would truly be unfortunate.

Because she will find someone who is capable of loving her correctly. Eventually, she will encounter someone who recognizes that life isn’t solely about his own needs.

She will meet someone who will treat her as if she is his entire universe. Thankfully, that person is not you.

Because, when it comes down to the two of you, you were the one lacking love.