10 Alarming Signs You Are In A Relationship With A Freeloader
Identifying a freeloader can be challenging because they are often well-disguised. At first, they will showcase an impressive facade, winning you over before gradually exposing their real intentions.
The supportive partner who once seemed devoted starts behaving differently.
Suddenly, everything becomes too much for him, and you find yourself handling, well, pretty much everything.
He’s now in a cycle of relentlessly taking without giving back. By definition, a freeloader is ‘… a person who takes advantage of others’ generosity without providing anything in return.’ Google Dictionary Does this remind you of your current partner or perhaps an ex?
Observe the indicators to determine if there’s a cause for concern:
1. He develops an attachment unnaturally quickly
He rushes into forming a bond, declaring affection after only a few dates, sometimes even professing love.
He might claim that this is unprecedented for him and to you, highlighting how you are unique.
Soon, he may expand on fantasies of commitment, marriage, or even discussions about future children.
These words lack authenticity; they serve his ulterior motives.
His aim is to ensnare you in deceit to exploit your kindness.
2. He squanders his time
He struggles to maintain employment, with constant excuses and unlikely incidents popping up.
Coming home, you often find him lounging or scrolling through his phone, surrounded by chaos.
His main activities include binge-watching shows, playing video games, keeping up with movies, or loitering with friends.
In reality, this is not the behavior of a mature adult. This is the classic behavior of a freeloader heading towards ruin—and pulling you along.
3. Regardless of your efforts, he makes you feel inadequate
He always flips the narrative, making you feel responsible for every issue.
Even if he concedes some fault, he’ll exaggerate your errors to make them seem massive.
This manipulation is designed to keep you under his influence, as he expertly wields psychological tactics to get his way.
4. You can’t count on him to follow through on his promises
You never anticipate how his ‘important day’ will unfold. He might not drive you home in a storm because he’s too preoccupied lounging around.
He might claim he’ll run an errand for youbut something unexpected will inevitably crop up. Similar or even worse situations are likely to occur. The crux of the matter is that he is indolent, shirks responsibility, and you can’t count on him to do anything useful. **5. Nine Times Out of Ten, You Handle the Bill During Dates** There’s nothing wrong with splitting the bill or covering costs on occasions, but it shouldn’t be every single time. For starters, it drains your bank account, and secondly, it’s extremely frustrating and unfair. He might shower you with excuses, but you’ll see right through his fabrications. What’s the probability that he faces a financial crisis every Friday? Is he really so forgetful as to leave his wallet behind whenever you go out? Highly unlikely. What’s your take? This guy is nothing more than a parasite, and he is financially exploiting you. **6. He Regularly Borrows Money from You** Initially, it’ll be just a few dollars he promises to return promptly. Then, the amounts will grow, and before you know it, he won’t pay you back, and you’ll never get your money returned. You know he earns enough to repay you, but he’s so stingy that he refuses to. He’s okay with taking from you, but when it’s time to give back, he’s not so inclined. **7. He Still Lives with His Mom** If a guy is still staying with his mother, it might be a temporary measure until he’s back on his feet or finds better employment. But if it’s been several years and he shows no signs of changing his situation… you should be alarmed, very alarmed, as this guy likely has no plans of leaving Mommy Dearest and probably plans on depending on his parents financially indefinitely. **8. You Share a Living Space, But You Cover the Rent** This is quintessential freeloader behavior. He’s comfortable living with you and acting as though the place is his without contributing a dime to help. Purchasing groceries, cleaning the apartment, handling the dishes, preparing meals, taking out the trash, etc., often falls on you because he can’t be bothered to lift a finger. **9. He is a Deadbeat Dad**
If you have a kid with him, you probably feel really tired. He doesn’t even take the time to pick up his own son from daycare, let alone pay for those expenses.
All the financial, physical, and emotional care a child needs comes from you, while he occasionally plays with them.
10. He fears the thought of the two of you splitting up
If you even hint at ending things with him, he quickly turns the tables, making promises to transform.
He may even shed tears and beg you for another chance.
On one hand, he could be truly remorseful, understanding he’s heading down a bad path.
However, more likely, he simply doesn’t want to lose his reliable source of extra funds.
He doesn’t want to lose your emotional backing or someone who puts up with his nonsense either.
After reading this, recognizing even one of these signs can indicate if your man is a moocher.
If several signs ring bells in your mind, then there’s no question—you’re dating someone who’s taking advantage of you significantly.
If you see him in a few of these signs, say goodbye without second thoughts.
He’s just a parasite who will siphon your resources—not just financially but physically and emotionally too.
