It’s His Fault For Leading You On But It’s Your Fault For Letting Him

The reality is that this guy has been treating you terribly for a long time.

He is not the man you deserve, and he’s never treated you in the way you should be treated.

When you reflect on it, from day one, you’ve been unsure of your standing with him.

Are you his friend with benefits, just a casual fling, or are you his girlfriend?

Despite your efforts to make things official and define your relationship, he refused to label it.

He’s never been fully committed to you, and that’s been eating you up inside.

There is no doubt—it’s entirely his fault.

You’re not to blame for the fact that this jerk can’t make up his mind and get his act together.

Still, you might wonder why you aren’t enough for this man.

What is it that you lack, and why can’t he love you as you deserve?

Are you the one who’s done something wrong all along?

Why can’t this guy have the decency to choose you?

Let me tell you—you shouldn’t blame yourself for his actions and his mistreatment.

Believe me, there’s nothing you could do to make him change or commit to you.

Ultimately, you must understand you can’t force a guy to love you until he decides to do so on his own.

Nonetheless, what you should blame yourself for is letting him manipulate you all this time.

For permitting him to waste your years, allowing him to treat you undeservingly, and settling for someone who doesn’t care about you.

You are responsible for giving him the freedom to continue hurting you and breaking your heart.

You’re the only one to blame for him still having a place in your heart, despite everything he’s done.

To be honest—you are a smart girl, and there’s no chance you don’t see who this guy truly is.

I know you think he just needs one more chance and that someday, everything will fit together.

I know you want to believe in his empty promises and suspect you’ll regret turning your back on him without granting another chance, now that you’re so close to having him entirely.

But let’s face it—deep down, you know for certain he will never change and that he will never grow into the man you need beside you.

You are quite aware he will keep stringing you along as long as you let him.

However, despite all of this, and all the pain he’s caused you, you’re the one who keeps giving him endless second chances.

You’re the one who keeps forgiving him and the one who waits patiently to take him back every time he leaves.

You’re the one making excuses for his disrespectful behavior, deceiving yourself that things will eventually improve, and the one avoiding reality.

The one who keeps hoping that this guy will make you happy even when, deep down, you know that won’t happen in a million years.

The one who deepens her own emotional scars.

The one who keeps holding onto him, knowing she needs to release him.

I hate to be harsh, but the truth is, this guy keeps breaking your heart because you let him.

Yes, you are a victim of his actions, but you are also a victim of your own failure to confront the truth and accept it.

You’re a victim to your own inability to make a change and walk away from someone who cannot offer you the love you deserve.

So please, instead of waiting for this man to realize what he’s doing, know that you’re the one who needs to get your life in order.

Instead of waiting for him to finally choose you, choose yourself over his half-hearted affection.

Instead of waiting for him to appreciate your efforts, have enough self-respect to leave him behind.

Instead of waiting for him to value you, see your own worth and recognize that you deserve more than someone uncertain about you.

Instead of waiting for him to love you genuinely, love yourself enough to say your final farewell.